1 – WHY THIS BOOK
After Team Mastery Iberia Module 0, I had big feelings about that we all had “flown” during the module. We also talked about being some kind of flow between the team. Mar’s guidance in meditation also helped me to flow. After all that, I wanted to know more about the ideas behind flowing.
In INIT incubator, there is Ixi, from Pink Gorillas, who is working in her SuperFlow experiment, something beyond Flowing. It is all about flowing while paying attention to the body. Reading this book could make me understand more about her project. And it did.
Sometimes I also have this feeling that life is pushing and pulling me in the stream of the river, and I don’t take control of my own flow. So understanding this could also help to understand myself.
2 – FEELINGS ABOUT THE BOOK
I liked it a lot. The problem of the book is maybe that 400 pages to say something so specific is too much, but the main idea of the book will stay in my head forever.
The book is quite old, and the idea is not “revealing”; but sometimes, when your life has got complex, you need somebody to tell you that it is not, with some strong theories and ideas as backup.
What I liked from the book is that it is based on hundreds of interviews, so it’s like the theory behind a real study, that you can also analyze, understand and conclude as you want to.
3 – KEY IDEAS OF THE BOOK
3.1What does “happiness” mean? When are you more happy?
Such a simple question is the base question that is behind the study that has lead to answer hundreds of interviews and specific questions to solve why, when and how we are happy.
One sentence to remember: “Men are not afraid of things, but of what they see”.
Because we capture the PERCEPTION of things, not things itself. So we READ and ANALYZE things. So the same thing can be seen different from two persons (elephant story).
Delfos: “know yourself first”.
To understand your sorroundings, you have to understand yourself, and have control of your consciounces and be able to read your things as more neutral and balanced as possible.
Idea: is it possible to create a customized method or tools to improve my consciousness control? Not only meditation, but some actions to improve that skill?
I relate that to “being too nervous”: When you are too nervous, it is that you are not controlling consciousness well.
3.2FOCUS IS IMPORTANT
Why is it important to focus on one thing? Because consciouncess has one limit: it can only attend at the same time 3-4 complex things. That’s demostrated, so your consciousness is more aware and more “stable” if it is doing one thing at a time, and maximizing the quality of the experience. Concentration is important.
The unstability (and anger) that you suffer when people disturb your concentration is also mentioned in the book, and it is something that happens me often.
I think that mobile phones are quite dangerous in this sense. Also, working on pomodoros has helped to start solving this issue. But it is a issue in which I have to work on.
So, to enjoy life, it means putting more attention in things that you do.
3.3CHALLENGES – IMPROVING ABILITY – Diff. Between PLEASURE AND ENJOY.
Sex for example gives pleasure. But to really enjoy an experience, you have to feel that something of you has changed, so you feel better with yourself (although it was a painful experience). So things that suppose a challenge, so you have to improve your skills, is what makes you really enjoy.
I also think that learning is a way to know and perceive how much you are improving in your skills, so that’s why the more you learn, the more you enjoy.
There’s here also an interesting discussion about how gamification makes you see that you improve your skills. And how creating real or virtual challenges make you have more fun, and enjoy more. Having clear challenges is important.
Idea: always set clear challenges VISUALIZED (paper on the wall), short challenges, that you can SCRATCH and enjoy the moment when you feel you achieved one. Challenges have to be balanced: not too dificult, but not too easy.
Idea 2: a lot of meaning about the real gamification are on these pages, and a lot of karmacracy can be affected with this. For example, we see clearly now that karmacracy “makes you learn to share better to your social networks, through gamification”. We will allow users to set challenges to themselves and to friends.
I also liked a lot this graphic that is quite self-explaining and tells why challenges have to be balanced with your abilities.
dea: may be and indicator of how many challenges you achieve is related to an indicator of how happy and proud you feel, it could be the base of an indicator for the incubator?
Idea: could it be possible to visualize in the list of challenges, what skills I need for each challenge, and how they’re going to improve? Looks like postmotorola is based on this theory (but simplifying to this key question not to do a full motorola for your full challenges). It also could be linked to some “gamification” based on a rol game: improving skills. “My project management skill has improved because I managed this project”:
3.4CULTURE AND ENVIROMENT AFFECTS FLOW
It’s obvious to think how culture and environment affects to flow if you think of how challengeable it is. I really liked the idea of that tribe that changed place (migrated) each 25-30 years so they didn’t get used to the place and they could flow again. It was also good for nature so it can re-birth again the place they left behind.
Idea: changing places / rooms / … every X years (1 year?) could also help us not to get used to our jobs.
3.5BODY / MEMORY / THINKING
Related to #SuperFlow from Ixi, we in INIT are doing a master on this 🙂 It’s cool to understand where Ixi got inspired. It’s also curious to see how related to meditation this chapter it is. It also talks about the 8 stages of yoga. I would like to do a little more research about this when I have time.
For the future: what are these 8 stages of Yoga and how do they help you to control your consciousness and being aware and having flow?
I also liked a lot the way it says that exercising memory is good for flow. It helps you to concentrate. In my case, I also think that it would help me to practice my patience.
Idea: write down daily what I have done. Rewrite the tasks I did.
Idea: is there anything that I would like to study and memorize? Something not related to my daily work, as for example, story of spain, or things that I may not be good at, but I could try to exercise memory and feel flow (maybe reading TM book is enough XD).
This also reminds me the importance of learning the whole life to live in flow.
3.6WORK AND FLOW
Thinking about flowing during work or outside work is absurd. The goal is to flow all the time. There was a very interesting story of a woman in the mountains who told that if she had all the money in the world, she still would work in the mountain doing what she did. She was happy. That’s the feeling we need to feel everyday.
Maybe your work can be gamified 🙂
Idea: that reminds me of the idea of making a list of challenges and think what skills will I improve if I overcome them.
Attitude is also important, not the environment itself.
It was also curious how the study showed that people used to be more on flow during work that outside. But at work they would prefer to be “outside”. It’s a paradox; it’s because the idea that “work is horrible” is inside our culture so deep that we can’t fight against that. Maybe we should. How to overcome this cultural idea and make people realize that working is even more health, fun and flowful than doing absolutely nothing or waching TV?
During work is when I have more experience and the ones with big quality, so enjoy work.
Idea: search for ACTIVE activities during outside work.
3.7FLOW ALONE AND IN FAMILY
If you live in couple, you may even try to flow with your boyfriend or girlfriend. How?
This chapter gave me the idea of making a list of 12 challenges that my couple and I could try to overcome during the next year. Some activities that we both could enjoy while overcoming them, as writing a little book together, finding 10 new routes to go with the dogs, make 3 cakes together, doing the room that now is a mess, …
We could aim to achieve them during the next year, and be focused on them. It could be fun and bind us more together; and feel that we improve as a couple.
This could also be done in a funny way with my family, as we do now the “amigo invisible”, but “one setting to another one, a fun and special activity to do with some other member of the family”.
4 – MAIN IDEA TO REMEMBER
Remember to think how you can flow in your daily activities. Change your consciousness to see each activity with new eyes; finding that the activity has this features:
- Look it as a challenge. Set your challenges.
- It’s a challenge according to your abilities. Not too low (boring) or not too high (frustrating)
- => Check what skills you need and how they will improve after the activity.
- Be able to focus on it, and only on it. Do not multitask. Turn phone off. Maybe use a pomodoro technique.
- Look for a short feedback. If the feedback would get too late, make shorter tasks.
- => BE ABLE TO MEASURE THE GOAL IN A VERY EXPLICIT WAY
- Adapt your consciousness you see it as an opportunity, not a boring task.